Letter From a Former Modesty Challenged Teen
Modesty, just say the word and teenage girls look at you like you are ridiculous. Ask a girl why she wants to get her belly button pierced, wear a bikini, or why she has so many low cut shirts and high cut shorts and you are likely to hear, “they are cute,” “it’s all stores sell,” or “what’s the big deal.” I have heard it all over the years. Every once in a while I receive an apology from some student who realizes something I once hounded them about back when they were in High School turns out to be true. I recently received this facebook message from a former student and I asked permission to share it with all of you. Keep up the good work and fight for what is right and good, in the end it pays off, even if it is years later. (Names have been changed)
Hi John!
I was recently remembering with Susie what a hard time I gave you and your wife about modesty realized perhaps an apology was in order. As I get older (almost 24 whole years!) that whole teenage scene just makes me more and more sick; how brave you and Christa are to be in youth ministry!! I realize now that “trying not to make our Christian brothers fall” is only half of it. We are not to present ourselves in that manner because it is actually demeaning (not empowering) to the female half of the equation (epiphany!). Why would I ever want to present myself as someone who is only worth my sexuality when God has made me such an amazing whole person – spirit, intellect, and in last place, body. The more I keep for God and myself (until I am married of course) the more I am treating myself as someone who is priceless as a creation of God. Trying to gain boy’s approval for my outward appearance is a poor substitute for both God and I agreeing that I deserve the utmost respect inside and out, just as I should give it to others. Anyway, please share this with Christa, hopefully you can feel some hope as you look at your youth acting so crazily. Thank you for your sacrifice!
Grace and Peace,
Jenny
Comments
John, you are very right about modesty, which is part of our christian testimony, but I also understand why those who do not know the Lord take the position they do. So the message is “we must give the message of salvation, and we must expend our lives doing it”
Love you and your family very much,
Grandma Grover
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